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Episode 072: The Importance of Mentors

I often have wondered why people don’t like the idea of having a coach for something. A mentor is essentially a coach, after all. I truly believe that people KNOW the importance of having a good coach or mentor, but they don’t want to utilize one for a variety of reasons. Throughout my interviews of many people (and discussions with many more), the reasons that seem to come up time and time again are:

1) People don’t want to answer to others
2) People don’t want someone else to hold them accountable
3) People don’t know where to find a mentor
4) People don’t know what their mentor’s skillset should be
5) People don’t want to pay for a mentor/coach

There are others, but those are the most common from what I can tell. I’ve dissected each of these myself on my own time and can honestly resonate with each one of them. There are aspects to having a coach or mentor that is unsettling (or downright annoying). That doesn’t mean it’s not going to beneficial.

We do spend the first 18-24 years of our lives going to school. We have our parents barking orders at us, telling us what to do, making sure we don’t screw up too bad, etc. Then when we are at school we have teachers, teaching aides, professors, etc, telling us what to do and giving us assignments. Then as a teenager (or maybe earlier for some of you), you have a job – the person who employs you may tell you what to do, order you around, hold you to a schedule, give you responsibility, etc. All of this structure, year after year, tends to build a resentment towards others holding us accountable for things or telling us what to do. This also forms an anti-teacher or anti-coach mentality. So not only do we not want a teacher, coach, or mentor in our lives…we sure as hell won’t pay money for it. Instead, we’ll “figure it out” on our own, right?

Here’s the truth – business is hard. Fitness is hard. Parenting is hard. Doing anything great is HARD. Not impossible, but difficult. What makes it even MORE possible and LESS difficult? Having a coach or mentor who has experience and can help you avoid the pitfalls. Why make the same mistake that someone else has made, and possibly cost yourself a lot of time, money, progress, etc? A lot of mistakes could be easily avoided by having someone in your life helping guide you along the way – you will still make mistakes, but the major catastrophes can be avoided. What’s more, you could end up in a situation with a coach where you are always on the right path, even if you DO make mistakes, you are making mistakes while progressing. What a concept 🙂

Don’t underestimate the power of a coach or mentor, or even a mastermind. All of these things exist to help you. Do your research, weed out the bad ones, and find one that is appropriately fitting to you and your situation. You won’t regret it.

Episode 065: Commitment & Seeing Things Through

Do you know what it means to commit to something? You probably have committed to things in the past like a relationship, a sport, a hobby, or school. If that is the case, what was the result at the end? You probably became very good at that thing. In fact, you might even say you were successful at that thing. What a concept!

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Have you ever had thoughts of building something huge like a business, or reaching that insane fitness goal? Then you start, and it’s easy, then it’s hard, then you quit. This is so common, unfortunately. Success in anything takes commitment, hard work and seeing the game through. Success is not handed out, it’s earned.

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The truth is that I believe anyone can build a business. The difference between someone who builds a business that is successful and the one who just builds a business (i.e. creates an LLC, opens a checking account, creates a free website) is that the person who is successful is the person who worked, and was committed to the process of working and seeing it through to the end.

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Not sure what to do? Think about the thing that you’re passionate about. Now go do it, every day, until you’re great at it. Now what? Show the world how great you are at it – start a youtube channel, a podcast, a blog, or something that allows you to share your mastery of that thing with the world. Gain followers around that passion, and eventually monetize it in a way that is genuine, authentic and allows you to use that income to create an even more awesome product for your fanbase. It is that simple.

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All of this can be done, and you can be the one to do it. What it takes is hard work, discipline, commitment and seeing the process through to the end.

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Gordon

Episode 061: Excuses Do Not Lead To Success

The definition of excuse is: an attempt to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offense); seek to defend or justify

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The attempt to lessen the blame. What does that mean? It’s a way of rationalizing why something went wrong, or didn’t get done, or was done poorly.

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Think of all the people in your life that have made excuses in the past or continue to do so on a regular basis. I firmly believe that excuses are a byproduct of a loser mentality. Excuses are just excuses and do absolutely no good. What might be worse than excuses are when people make claims that “there is no excuse for my action” or “there is no excuse for my poor results” but then don’t actually change moving forward.

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It’s easy to start making excuses when you aren’t successful, or when you fall short of a goal or objective…

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  • I had to take my kid to baseball practice
  • I had to work late
  • My brother really needed to talk to me and I lost track of time
  • My computer was acting up so I couldn’t send that email

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Excuses keep people from being successful, period. Success itself is a moving target and is really hard to achieve, so by piling on excuses on top of it just fosters a losing, fall short mentality.

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Have you ever been successful at anything? Truly successful – you set a goal, you worked relentlessly towards it until you achieved it. It’s hard. To be truly successful, obviously you need grit and resiliency, along with creativity and innovative thinking, etc. Beyond that, you need to understand that it’s a moving target. Successful people understand that by reaching their goals, they realize that out of that goal a new one is born and moves further away, which promotes more hustle, more grind, more push in order to climb to reach the next one. Success is that moving target, not a pot of gold at the end. You don’t get “successful” and then check the box and call it a day.

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No matter how successful you become, always stay focused on that target out on the horizon and never lose sight of it. The moment you think you’ve won, is the moment you lose.

Episode 057: What It Really Takes To Succeed

This episode is straight up the “secret” to moving forward to be successful.

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The secret? Action. Listen closely, I provide some RELATABLE examples that everyone can resonate with.

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What’s your goal? Fitness? Starting a business? Writing a book? Writing an album? Making a film? Learning a new skill? The best way to do that is to take action on it daily. Trust in the process that practice makes perfect, and reps lead to memory which leads to habit which leads to success.

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Listen, absorb, and go out there and kill it.

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Subscribe and rate me on iTunes, I would greatly appreciate it.

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Gordon

Episode 056: Interview with Peter Gasca

In this episode, I get to sit down and chat with Peter Gasca – father, husband, beer enthusiast and author of One Million Frogs, writer at Inc and Entrepreneur, professor at Coastal Carolina University.

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More importantly, Peter is a great guy with a lot of experience and insight on entrepreneurship, parenting, and what it takes to be successful.

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Leading up to the financial economic downturn in 2007/2008, Peter started working on a business called Wild Creations, which was focused heavily on aquariums with frogs. This product, eventually picked up by Brookstone, was a huge seller and led them to a lot of success. During the interview, Peter explains how challenging the business was to get started, keep afloat at times, and then ultimately sell the business.

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Peter also shares his insights on parenting, teaching entrepreneurship, and what separates a successful winner entrepreneur from someone who gives up, quits, or loses.

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Get in touch with Peter:

One Million Frogs

Peter Gasca’s Website

Twitter

Instagram

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Gordon

 

Episode 051: New Schedule Announcement

Listeners of the Fit Successful Dad podcast, thank you so much for checking out my content and continuing to listen week after week. Your support means everything to me.

Going forward, sometime around the 4th of July 2017 I will be turning over from a 3-day-per-week schedule to a 2-day-per-week schedule. Episodes will be airing on Tuesdays and Thursdays. One day will be focused entirely on tactical, specific, and inspirational content. The other day will be an interview, just like the way I have been conducting thus far.

The main reason for this is that I feel like there is a bit more competition on the M/W/F schedule. When I say competition I’m really talking about reaching more peoples ears. The goal is still the same: reach as many people as possible, with or without the crazy family schedule that I have, and motivate them to reach their potential. I feel that by releasing my podcast on a Tuesday and Thursday I will increase the opportunity for engagement because I will not be competing as much with the top podcasts in our space. Will I reach more listeners? I don’t know. Everything needs tested, nothing is certain. Maybe in 3 or 6 months I find that the engagement is the same, or lower, or higher, and I make an adjustment then if necessary.

I also need to invest a little more time on a weekly basis to SOBAM Gear Co. as I continue to build it, so this allows me a little bit more time to do that while we approach the Kickstarter campaign launch in September 2017.

If either of these two reasons stood alone, I wouldn’t have changed the content schedule for the podcast. I absolutely love making this podcast, for both myself and you, the listener. The combination of those two reasons, however, made too much sense to ignore so here we are.

I hope you continue to listen because I really have some killer content coming up that I think you will love 🙂

Thank you for all of your support

Gordon

Episode 050: SOBAM Update, Merch Update & The Importance of Pivoting

Welcome to Episode 50 of the Fit Successful Dad Podcast!

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It definitely still feels like just yesterday the podcast was just a concept. I was sitting with my sister around Thanksgiving 2016 talking about ideas, concepts, and names. Within a 24 hour window, I dialed in on all of those things and secured my domain name www.fitsuccessfuldad.com – what a rush. That was nearly 7 months ago, and now I have just published my 50th episode over 17 straight weeks with 100% consistency. I’ve also interviewed nearly 20 amazing entrepreneurs, and made dozens of new relationships. Some of which have been involved in helping me get my upcoming brand off the ground, SOBAM Gear Co.

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Speaking of SOBAM Gear Co – I have made some changes to my strategy with the Kickstarter campaign. Mainly, I have pulled in a different campaign manager and content creator. This new relationship makes a lot more sense for a lot of reasons. I felt really good before, and now I feel GREAT about moving forward with the campaign. I also have met a great photography/videography team that is local to me, within about 5 miles. This is exciting on so many levels, and I think it will help having all 3 of us nearby able to meet and look at content together.

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One more note on things being local – I’m never a proponent of being all in on one supplier. Ever. Sole source of supply isn’t a good idea. That’s how monopolies happen, and it’s also how people get screwed when their supplier all of the sudden has an issue and can’t fulfill your order. In order to combat this, I have identified multiple sources of supply, and one of them just happens to be here in the US. To take it one step further, they are within 2 hours of my house! Nothing is set in stone yet, but things are looking really good for possibly being able to produce my bags here in the US. Nothing will make me happier about this whole situation than being able to provide a job opportunity for Americans here in my home country. As an entrepreneur, I feel grateful that I even have the drive and passion to WANT to be able to give back to my country in that way. A few more pieces need to unfold before I know whether it will be realistic or not, but that is what I am striving for.

.Onto another income stream that seems to interest so many people: Merch By Amazon. I currently am tiered up to the 500-shirt tier as of today. Until today, I was at the 100-shirt tier and making around $500/month for about 4 hours/week. With the new tier being at 500 shirts, I fully expect with the skills I’ve developed to date that I will be able to scale it linearly with the tier, giving me a potential monthly income of 5x$500 = $2500/month. This is the goal, so that is what I’m aiming for. If you aren’t working Merch into your income stream strategy, you might want to ask yourself why.

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If you have ever gotten any value out of this podcast whatsoever, please do me a favor and leave a review on iTunes. It would mean so much to me.

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Cheers, here’s to 50 more!

Gordon

Episode 048: How Do YOU Stay Inspired?

What keeps you inspired to move forward? Do you ever struggle to find motivation to start something new, or moreover, to keep grinding away as you slowly make progress on something? During this episode I break down some of the things that I use on a regular basis in my life to keep me motivated, inspired and determined to keep my crosshairs fixed on the target.

There are 5 things I constantly do week-in and week-out to stay focused. Sometimes these are things I do day-in and day-out. Just about anyone can deploy these or some minor variation of these to find a source to draw inspiration from. My 5 sources are:

  1. Family: My family is my life, period. My wife and son together are my rock and without out, I wouldn’t ever be able to stay as grounded as I do. Talking and interacting with them daily keeps me inspired and motivated to accomplish things in life and to stay ambitious.

  2. Brand Builders: As a brand-builder, I’m always interested in the strategies or tactics that other brand-builders (not necessarily fitness brands) deploy in order to propel their businesses to distant heights. I am able to find out details on these by digging away on social media for other brands and then I continue to keep digging to see what things were like before and after any major hiccups, roadblocks, or issues.

  3. Looking back on previous experiences, successes and failures. Everyone has something that occurred in their past that they can look back on and say “wow how the hell did I make it through that?” – drawing inspiration from this is one of my favorites.

  4. Alternatively from drawing inspiration from what lies ahead in the future is extremely powerful as well. Especially if you have put it all on the line and are holding yourself accountable as a result, you will be able to gain motivation simply from reminding yourself of that.

  5. Always stay anchored or grounded. I do this through fitness and exercising 4-5 days a week. Without this, I am not as sharp or thorough as I need to be sometimes. Your grounding technique may not be fitness or exercise, which is fine! Whatever it is, use that grounding technique as often as possible.

There are an infinite amount of ways to gain information and knowledge around what you are doing in order to stay inspired. What methods do you deploy? Whatever it is, make sure you do it often enough to NOT lose focus on a regular basis.

Take care,

Gordon

Episode 044: Remove Toxicity From Your Life

Chances are you have toxic people in your life.

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What is a toxic person? Let’s look at the textbook definition of toxic: “poisonous” (e.g. the dumping of toxic waste).

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There’s a lot of people that we interact with on a daily basis. The problem is that some of them are negative and toxic with their personalities and attitude. What happens when a person that is constantly negative and around us a lot is that they contaminate us and our energy and begins a long domino effect of the breakdown of our pillars of support. This continues to occur as long as we are in consistent proximity of negative people.

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I’m a huge proponent of positivity, karma, gratitude, fulfillment, etc. I believe that all of this leads to the best form of us through personal and individual development in a way that cannot be replicated any other way. No one can put a price on feeling positive to the point where someone feels unstoppable and becomes inspired as a result. There is no drug that can produce this, it is purely achieved through mindset and lifestyle adjustments.

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Remove the most negative, toxic, and demeaning people from your circle and you WILL see a massive positive change in all areas of your life.

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Stay tuned for my announcement of my next brand which I’m going at very aggressively. There will be a Kickstarter campaign in September to raise the capital for a Q4 2017 launch.

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Get out there and get after it!

Gordon

Episode 039: Do You Love Obstacles?

In this episode, I talk about the obstacles that present themselves in every business and how having a love for obstacles and struggles will be your ultimate super weapon for success.

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What are you building – A physical products brand? A digital product? A software service? A Podcast? A Youtube Vlog? I can guarantee two things that will hold true no matter what you are building, and no matter how many people before you have built something similar:

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  1. There will be serious challenges and obstacles to get you to a point where you are “successful”
  2. Your obstacles and challenges will be unique to you, and will require some creativity to get past

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I have built one brand on Amazon and had my own challenges that required unique solutions with some creativity that no one could have provided a simple answer to. Sure, there are general tactics that may work for some things, but you will have to figure out ways to navigate through your own issues as they arise. Every business deals with this, and if you’re in a position where you have a team, it may or may not be easier. Even if you are in a position where you have a solid team to help you and the business tackle these issues, there will be more that continue to pop up.

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What is your “why”? We talk about this a lot. Have you figured it out yet? If you have your “why” dialed in, you should have no problem answering whether or not you love the challenge enough to build this thing in order to achieve the “why”. I have mine identified and I know exactly what I want, and I will keep pressing forward even after I’ve achieved it because I know once I get my “why”, then I will immediately be dissatisfied and will have to generate a new one.

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If you want to win, you need to love the challenge. Got it?

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Gordon