Episode 070: The Parenting Mindset for Entrepreneurs

Parenting. It’s the one thing no one wants to tell someone else how to do. It’s also one thing that SO many people have in common. The other piece that we all have in common is the way we tend to direct our kids towards achieving certain things, and being a certain type of person. This could mean professionally, artistically, academically, socially, athletically, musically…the list goes on forever.

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Parents invest tremendous amounts of energy: time, money, focus, attention, etc. into their children. We do this in order to cultivate them, and grow them into something. What most people don’t realize is that all parents do this in a way that is focused on growing them into something that WE want, whether we think that’s the truth or not. Year after year, we teach them how to be great at something that we want them to be great at, so that they can be successful.

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What we don’t do enough of, is returning that same amount of energy, time, focus, attention back on ourselves for personal development. Think about how great you would be at the things you want to be great at if you actually invested in YOU even half as much as you invested in your kids. No one (myself included) is suggesting that you forego your children’s needs to focus on yourself (that would be stupid). However, I am suggesting that instead of sitting back and drinking a couple beers and watching TV after your kid goes to bed, focus on something you’ve always wanted to be great at. Think of it as your extra kid. Once your actual children are asleep, there’s another one that needs attention: you. This person needs to be taught how to chase their goals, and become the thing that they (you) want to be.

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It’s actually quite simple. Invest in yourself IN ADDITION to your kids.

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Know what else happens when you do this? You show something to your kids. You teach by example. You show them that having a big goal is achievable by working hard and not giving up. Instead of showing them that giving up on your goals is ok, show them that breaking down barriers and pushing through until you REACH your goals is possible for anyone, even a busy parent. Your kids will see this, and it will become their normal mentality. They’ll understand that they do whatever they want because they’ve watched you do great things right before their eyes as they were growing up.

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Sometimes parents need to stop parenting their kids so much and start parenting themselves. I’m not an exception to this – I think about it quite often. I have to remind myself daily that I need to invest in myself as much as I invest in my son (or close to it), and by doing that, I’m also helping him understand what’s possible in life just by working hard and never giving up.

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Gordon

 

 

 

 

 

 

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