Episode 066: Believe In Yourself

So many people get stuck in a situation they are unhappy with and end up staying there for way too long all because they don’t have the confidence to remove themselves from it. This can be a relationship with a significant other, a friend, a business partner, or maybe it’s a position in a job, or even a state of physical fitness. When you’re stuck in a situation that you are unhappy with, sometimes it’s easier just to stay there and stick with the devil you know, versus the devil you don’t.

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I want you to take a minute and think about something you have going on in your life – a situation – that you aren’t happy with. Then ask yourself why you are still in that situation? If all of the reasons that you’re coming up with sound like they aren’t real reasons, they probably aren’t…they’re excuses. Things like:

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“I don’t have time to…”

“I feel uncomfortable talking about…”

“This is just how it’s been for so long…”

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That’s right, these are excuses, not reasons.

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You have the power within you to make the decision to get out of these situations and improve your life. All you have to do is believe in yourself…

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Gordon

Episode 063: The Box

What is the box? The box is a place where most people end up once they become adults. The box is a situation, a lifestyle, a way of life. It’s called the box because it has walls on all sides and a lid that closes so you can’t get out.

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Here’s a couple scenarios that you might fall into:

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  1. You go to school your whole life. You eventually go off to college and get yourself a degree, then you start working a job in that field or a related one. Years go by, you buy a house and take out a 30 year mortgage. You then buy a nice car. You then get married and have kids. Now you’re stuck – you have work that job to pay your bills. If you don’t pay your bills, your life gets destroyed by the companies that loaned you money. You’re in this for the long haul now. You are in the box.

  2. You go get a job as a tradesman. While your friends are racking up debt in college you’re off working as an electrician, a plumber, a carpenter, etc. making money, partying on the weekends, buying a bunch of stuff because you’re “so loaded”. A few years ago by, you become a journeyman electrician and start working your way up the ladder even more. As you climb, you do what the guy in scenario 1 did – you buy a house, a car, have kids, etc. Next thing you know, you’re in the box just like him.

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What’s the problem with being in the box? Nothing, if that’s your thing. If you’re reading this, I have a feeling being in the box is not your idea of fun. You dread Sunday nights (except for Game of Thrones season and Sunday Night Football). You aren’t driven to really perform at your peak while at your job because there isn’t enough motivation, and your drive to work hard is directly proportional to your interest in being there, which is very low. Sounds like an awesome way to live.

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An alternative would be to identify that you are living in a box, climb out, and do your own thing. Create your own income streams. Be your own boss. Find your own clients and build the business empire you want to build. Being outside the box provides income streams, relationships, time freedom, and an up-level in thinking that will put you in a different place mentally than all the drones you previously worked with and worked for. .Happiness should be a top priority for everyone, and if that’s working a 9-5 somewhere, great. Chances are, it’s not. If working for yourself makes you happy, then that’s a win-win and you should absolutely go ALL IN on that.

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I’ll say it again – go all in on what you love.

Gordon

Episode 061: Excuses Do Not Lead To Success

The definition of excuse is: an attempt to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offense); seek to defend or justify

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The attempt to lessen the blame. What does that mean? It’s a way of rationalizing why something went wrong, or didn’t get done, or was done poorly.

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Think of all the people in your life that have made excuses in the past or continue to do so on a regular basis. I firmly believe that excuses are a byproduct of a loser mentality. Excuses are just excuses and do absolutely no good. What might be worse than excuses are when people make claims that “there is no excuse for my action” or “there is no excuse for my poor results” but then don’t actually change moving forward.

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It’s easy to start making excuses when you aren’t successful, or when you fall short of a goal or objective…

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  • I had to take my kid to baseball practice
  • I had to work late
  • My brother really needed to talk to me and I lost track of time
  • My computer was acting up so I couldn’t send that email

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Excuses keep people from being successful, period. Success itself is a moving target and is really hard to achieve, so by piling on excuses on top of it just fosters a losing, fall short mentality.

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Have you ever been successful at anything? Truly successful – you set a goal, you worked relentlessly towards it until you achieved it. It’s hard. To be truly successful, obviously you need grit and resiliency, along with creativity and innovative thinking, etc. Beyond that, you need to understand that it’s a moving target. Successful people understand that by reaching their goals, they realize that out of that goal a new one is born and moves further away, which promotes more hustle, more grind, more push in order to climb to reach the next one. Success is that moving target, not a pot of gold at the end. You don’t get “successful” and then check the box and call it a day.

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No matter how successful you become, always stay focused on that target out on the horizon and never lose sight of it. The moment you think you’ve won, is the moment you lose.