It’s Monday. You wake up, you go through your morning routine, which concludes with you driving (or commuting) to work. You get out, dreading the fact that you have to endure another day with people you can’t stand while doing a job you get no fulfillment from. About 10 seconds after you walk through the door, someone looks over and says “hey, how was your weekend?”. Your response…”eh…same shit different day”.
Is this you? Or better yet, is this the response that you get from others when YOU ask them how their weekend was?
This is a true sign of someone that is getting no satisfaction or fulfillment from what they’re doing on a daily basis. This type of response is akin to anything that would be comparable to seeing the glass “half empty”. I know that you know people who talk like this on a routine basis. Maybe it’s you. Maybe it’s your Father. Maybe it’s your best friend. Ask yourself: do you see any value in these types of responses when people say “hello, how’s it going?” on a Monday morning:
1) Eh…same shit, different day (or “SSDD” for short, and yes, I’ve heard people say that out loud)
2) Another day in paradise…
3) Is it Friday yet?
4) Living the dream…
There is ZERO value in that. Talking like that, people may as well be saying “my life sucks, and I want yours to suck too so I’m going to pour all my negativity out at you”.
I don’t know about you, but I can’t stand when people try to reel me in to their miserable life by saying stuff like that. I’ve developed the ability to steer clear of it and deflect it. However, that doesn’t mean I don’t encounter it AND become affected by it from time to time. I’d be lying if I said I was immune to it. We are all affected by our surroundings, now matter how strong our defenses are. That is an artifact of being human.
We don’t have the ability to change what happens to us (in general), because we can’t control the universe. What we can control is our attitude, our mindset, our perspective and our outward energy and emotion. Do you know what happens when you outwardly express positivity, even on those days when you’re really not having it and don’t feel like being positive? You influence your surroundings. You make someone else’s day better. You release negativity in a way that lessens your own tension. You begin to force your day to get better. It isn’t easy, and it does take practice. That being said, it is real.
This podcast airs on Tuesday, September 26, 2017. If someone asks you how your day is going and all you can think about is the upcoming weekend…take an extra second before you respond with something that is going to bring zero value to that interaction.