Episode 074: Interview with Matisyahu Goren

Who do you surround yourself with? Are they beneficial to your mission by being around you or not? This is one of the things I believe has the biggest impact on why people succeed or don’t. We are creatures of adaptation, including who is around us.

I have been in and out of masterminds for some time now. Included in these are both paid and unpaid masterminds. Within one of those unpaid masterminds is where I’ve received the most value AND met some incredible people – one of which is today’s guest: Matisyahu Goren.

Matisyahu is an entrepreneur, father, husband, high level basketball skills coach (D1 + NBA), podcaster, is heavily involved in the Jewish community, and all around great dude. He runs a brand/cultural community called The Long Short Way, primarily targeting the Jewish community.

Matisyahu definitely has a lot to say, but it is all very valuable. One of the biggest things he recommends in this podcast for people trying to figure themselves out and find their way is simply reading more books, of which he recommends several. One that we share in common is Expert Secrets by Russell Brunson.

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Episode 073: Establishing & Maintaining Your Vision

Have you ever had a thought about doing something that you got really excited about and then after a short period of time (hours, days, weeks, months) you moved on from it because you thought it wasn’t attainable, or it would be too difficult, or people would judge you, or it wasn’t “practical”? Have you regretted not following through with that vision, even a little bit? Wondering what it might have been able to turn into?

This is a major problem that a lot of people deal with – they have amazing thoughts that manifest visions, and those visions seem crystal clear and ultra attainable until they start to doubt themselves. Or even worse, when others start to doubt them instead, and results in that person not taking action towards their goals.

This podcast episode is all about establishing and maintaining your vision. Establishing the vision is the “easy” part, but maintaining it seems to the part where most people have issues. Also, I’ve found that the majority of the time when people lose their ability to believe in themselves and their vision, it’s the result of being around others who don’t believe in them.

Take one second and think about why another person would put down YOUR vision, and try to snuff it out before you begin trying to build something. Why does that other person care? Chances are, it’s because they’re full of negativity and have low self esteem with their accomplishments. Maybe they’re jealous. Maybe they’re boring and miserable and they want someone else to join them in that struggle. Whatever the reason, it’s your job as a dreamer and someone with a vision to pursue that vision and make it a reality. To do that, you need to stay focused on it 100% of the time.

It’s very easy to get distracted OR to get discouraged when people tell you that you can’t do something. The good news? They aren’t you. You are you. Because of this, you have total control over how focused you remain. Can you keep your crosshairs on the objective and drive towards that every day? Yes you can. If you do that, you will be able to reach that goal.

Visualize what you want, remain focused at all times, and don’t let negative influences affect you.

Episode 072: The Importance of Mentors

I often have wondered why people don’t like the idea of having a coach for something. A mentor is essentially a coach, after all. I truly believe that people KNOW the importance of having a good coach or mentor, but they don’t want to utilize one for a variety of reasons. Throughout my interviews of many people (and discussions with many more), the reasons that seem to come up time and time again are:

1) People don’t want to answer to others
2) People don’t want someone else to hold them accountable
3) People don’t know where to find a mentor
4) People don’t know what their mentor’s skillset should be
5) People don’t want to pay for a mentor/coach

There are others, but those are the most common from what I can tell. I’ve dissected each of these myself on my own time and can honestly resonate with each one of them. There are aspects to having a coach or mentor that is unsettling (or downright annoying). That doesn’t mean it’s not going to beneficial.

We do spend the first 18-24 years of our lives going to school. We have our parents barking orders at us, telling us what to do, making sure we don’t screw up too bad, etc. Then when we are at school we have teachers, teaching aides, professors, etc, telling us what to do and giving us assignments. Then as a teenager (or maybe earlier for some of you), you have a job – the person who employs you may tell you what to do, order you around, hold you to a schedule, give you responsibility, etc. All of this structure, year after year, tends to build a resentment towards others holding us accountable for things or telling us what to do. This also forms an anti-teacher or anti-coach mentality. So not only do we not want a teacher, coach, or mentor in our lives…we sure as hell won’t pay money for it. Instead, we’ll “figure it out” on our own, right?

Here’s the truth – business is hard. Fitness is hard. Parenting is hard. Doing anything great is HARD. Not impossible, but difficult. What makes it even MORE possible and LESS difficult? Having a coach or mentor who has experience and can help you avoid the pitfalls. Why make the same mistake that someone else has made, and possibly cost yourself a lot of time, money, progress, etc? A lot of mistakes could be easily avoided by having someone in your life helping guide you along the way – you will still make mistakes, but the major catastrophes can be avoided. What’s more, you could end up in a situation with a coach where you are always on the right path, even if you DO make mistakes, you are making mistakes while progressing. What a concept 🙂

Don’t underestimate the power of a coach or mentor, or even a mastermind. All of these things exist to help you. Do your research, weed out the bad ones, and find one that is appropriately fitting to you and your situation. You won’t regret it.

Episode 071: LOVE That You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

When you embark on something new, you don’t know how to do it. You also don’t know all of the little details that you’re eventually going to NEED to know how to do in order to make it work. I talk about figuring out the unknown a lot on this podcast, but the reality is, that’s the second part of the equation. The first part, is figuring out WHAT you need to figure out. There’s certainly no blueprint for either one of those – you must learn it as you go. The best part is, that is actually your STRENGTH.

By not understanding exactly what you need to do in order to crush your goals, you can dive in head first and not be paralyzed by the fear of the giant monster waiting to kill you as soon as you step through the door. Instead, you open the door, realize there’s a giant monster waiting to kill you, and you dodge the attack, find something sharp and stab it to death and move on. If you know the monster was there, you wouldn’t have opened the door in the first place. Unfortunately, to get where you want to go, you have to go through the door. Aren’t you glad you didn’t even know the monster was there, so you couldn’t generate the fear to keep you away?

Not knowing what lies ahead as far as challenges is your biggest strength. As you move on, you will get better and better at anticipating the TYPE of challenge that is before you, but you’ll still never truly know what’s there. What’s more, is that you just get more gritty and tough as you go on, so any challenge is able to be defeated in your mind, and therefore, able to be defeated in reality.

There is no blueprint – embrace that you don’t know anything about where you’re going, and use that to your advantage.

Gordon